Editorial
One down but the big one is coming up. Christmas is when you are expected to give gifts, especially if you receive one. Families come together and often from long distances. My brother's kids are at opposite sides (California and North Carolina) of the country but will manage to meet mom and dad in the middle (Texas) and that will be typical of many families across the country.
When multiple families get together the thing that unites them is the thing they have no control over, they were born into a family they did not get to choose. As they get older they can choose where they live, who they marry, or live with, they can choose what side of the politic stream to dwell on and what, if any, faith they may believe in. A new family is developing and some point will overshadow or become more prominent in priority than the original.
Parents always want to see their children, especially during the holidays. But when children don't do what parents expect them to do, well you know what happens. So, here's a few ideas for peace on earth or at least in the family...
Let the kids plan when and how or even if they come. They may have to deal with another set of parents that may not be as acquiescent as you.
Don't off the deep end with gift giving, nowadays people just get what they want when want so it may not be as big of deal as it is to you. And, they may not have funds to reciprocate. Besides, isn't the real gift just being together?
Don't talk about politics, unless everyone is on the same side. You may even have to include religion to that.
DO listen, and just enjoy the time together.
